Yog li dhau mus lawm … Kev xav ploj xwb. Thiab, txawm hais tias kev sib hwm thiab kev phooj ywg koj muaj rau ib leeg, koj yuav tsum xaus kev sib raug zoo. Tab sis li cas?
Cov kws npliag siab hauv Brigham Young University hauv tebchaws Asmeskas tau txiav txim siab los nrhiav: dab tsi yog txoj kev zoo tshaj los tawg nrog tus khub?
Lawv cov kev tshawb fawb tau ua raws li kev ua haujlwm ntawm cov kws tshaj lij lus Askiv Alan Manning thiab Nicole Amare ntawm University of South Alabama, uas tau sib cav hais tias yog tias muaj xov xwm tsis zoo, nws yog ib qho tseem ceeb kom tsis txhob kov ib ncig ntawm lub hav zoov. Raws li cov xibfwb Manning, hais tias cov lus nyoos raws li txoj kev tawg ncaj yuav yog lub suab, nws zoo dua li yim pab. Thiab nws yog qhov zoo tshaj plaws los siv rau hauv kev sib tham, ua ntej hais lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb, taw qhia clichés zoo li "peb yuav tsum tham txog."
Tab sis dab tsi tsis txhob ua ua ntej parting
Qhov kev tshawb nrhiav no, xws li koj tuaj yeem pom, tsis muab cov lus qhia khawv koob rau qhov kawg tsis muaj qhov kawg. Nws yog ib qho tsis yooj yim sua kom qee yam yam tsis ua rau lwm tus raug kev txom nyem. Tab sis muaj ntau yam uas twv yuav raug hu tsis tau ua ntej koj yuav tsum tso kom kawg. Thiab qhov tseem ceeb tshaj plaws yog tias koj yuav tsum tsis txhob, ua ntej taug kev mus rau qhov kev sib tham loj, ua txuj tias koj zoo txhua yam nyob rau yav tsaus ntuj.
Piv txwv li: koj caw ib tus khub mus tom khw noj mov lossis tsev noj mov, kom nws nyiam cocktail thiab nruab nrab ntawm kev sib tham txhua hnub thiab tso dag kom koj hnov dheev thiab cia li ntshai tsam thaum kawg muab pov rau tus neeg uas koj nrog koj koom lub neej: “Kuv tsis "t zoo li dab tsi tshwm sim ntawm peb tam sim no Kuv xav tias peb yuav tau zoo mus."
Qhov no yog tag nrho cov kev ua yuam kev!
Koj tus khub yav tom ntej-yuav-yuav xav tias ntxeev siab los ntawm cov khoom noj txom ncauj tsis muaj tseeb kiag tau noj ua ntej rau pluas mov "ntsim ntsim".
Thiab txawm hais tias nws yog qhov nyuaj dua kom ncaj qha mus rau lub ntsiab lus tseem ceeb (nrog cov lus piav qhia), xav tias nws yuav ua rau ntau qhov tsawg dua kev puas tsuaj rau koj tus khub ntau tshaj qhov tsis tsim nyog. Tshwj xeeb tshaj yog tias nws yog qhov tseem ceeb rau koj los nyob nrog cov ntsiab lus zoo nrog koj tus ex.
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